Question ... Daily you face it ... No matter how easy / difficult it is ... and you answer that ... no matter how far/deep you think to do so ... Now, Questions vary from simple yes/no type to complex probling questions (which seek to discover more about what lies behind the initial replies) ...
I am trying here to put my thoughts on "Questions" ... What, When, How and Why part of it ...
Google defines the term as "a sentence of inquiry that asks for a reply" and Wikipedia defines the term as "A question may be either a linguistic expression used to make a request for information, or else the request itself made by such an expression."
When you ask a question, you want some positive reply out of it. Merely, that is the reason, why you ask. Remember, you can not ask same questions to all (friends/relatives). When you ask a question to somebody, you encourage him / her to think himself / herself; no matter how easy/difficult that question is.
In order to find the answer you're looking for, you have to ask the right question. Asking good questions is an essential skill that takes mindfulness, strategy and practice. The bottom line is: few people will help a person who doesn't help himself/herself.
The depth and quality of the question you are comfortable asking somebody will be a reflection of the quality of your mutual relationship. As you become astute(clever/smart) at listening, you realize how much you can tell about someone by the type of questions they ask. When you ask them questions it is an opportunity to show your interest and concern for them.
Feelings can change when a person goes through new experiences. Your questions can be powerful. The way you use questions is important. What are your intentions with asking the questions? Do you have personal integrity? Can you be trusted? How well do you understand and read people? How well do you listen? Your ability to put all these elements together will determine if you are an artist. Effective communication requires more than talent. It involves trust, understanding, empathy and resolution. It is an art that can be learned and developed.
Broadly I classify Questions into 2 categories: Weak and Strong ...
Weak questions are disempowering. They keep your focused on your own ego, your problems, and your shortcomings. Weak questions keep you focused on what’s wrong… on what isn’t working.Yet weak questions are addictive. When you’re in a negative state or situation, you aren’t thinking clearly to begin with. You’re in no position to accurately diagnose yourself.
Strong questions are empowering. They keep you focused on solutions, on what you can control. When you focus on what you can do, you avoid falling into analysis paralysis. Ultimately the way out of any negative situation is right thinking. Wrong thinking leads you in circles. Right thinking leads to action.
If you don’t like the results you’re getting, try asking completely different questions from the ones you’re used to asking. Ask questions that turn your focus towards your goals instead of away from them. Ask questions that allow you to enhance the pleasure in your life instead of creating greater pain.
Asking questions in a group meeting holds many different purposes; main motivation is to enhance the helping process; other being, satisfying curiosity. While curiosity is not itself inappropriate, within a support group meeting questions motivated by curiosity are best kept at a minimum in order to respect members’ privacy and to not impede the helping process. Finally, questions may be used as fillers when a person lacks something to say. When used strategically, questions can get the group back on track again and pave the way for further discussion.
Our schools, jobs and society have trained us well to accept things the way they are. They tell us that nothing will change and it's useless to get a lot of people mad at you. You might get fired. Our bosses don't like questions; politicians don't like questions; our church leaders don't like questions and the questioner is usually seen as a troublemaker. Asking questions at stockholder meetings, political conventions, and business meetings to name a few can bring ridicule, embarrassment or trouble.
Although asking questions can create many problems, it is an act of power. The right question at the right time can be the beginning of a massive wave or support for change. Asking questions can cleanse and heal the land.
So, when you are on the side of asking questions, just think, whether you should ask this; will it anyway hurt the person you are asking; whether, the reply to this will be helpful to you in any way. And when you are on the side of answering the question, always think on the question (think that, you are the one who need to answer this; so don't ask questions on questions instead of answering unless it calls for); answer carefully and that will lead to a good relation ahead ...
I am trying here to put my thoughts on "Questions" ... What, When, How and Why part of it ...
Google defines the term as "a sentence of inquiry that asks for a reply" and Wikipedia defines the term as "A question may be either a linguistic expression used to make a request for information, or else the request itself made by such an expression."
When you ask a question, you want some positive reply out of it. Merely, that is the reason, why you ask. Remember, you can not ask same questions to all (friends/relatives). When you ask a question to somebody, you encourage him / her to think himself / herself; no matter how easy/difficult that question is.
In order to find the answer you're looking for, you have to ask the right question. Asking good questions is an essential skill that takes mindfulness, strategy and practice. The bottom line is: few people will help a person who doesn't help himself/herself.
The depth and quality of the question you are comfortable asking somebody will be a reflection of the quality of your mutual relationship. As you become astute(clever/smart) at listening, you realize how much you can tell about someone by the type of questions they ask. When you ask them questions it is an opportunity to show your interest and concern for them.
Feelings can change when a person goes through new experiences. Your questions can be powerful. The way you use questions is important. What are your intentions with asking the questions? Do you have personal integrity? Can you be trusted? How well do you understand and read people? How well do you listen? Your ability to put all these elements together will determine if you are an artist. Effective communication requires more than talent. It involves trust, understanding, empathy and resolution. It is an art that can be learned and developed.
Broadly I classify Questions into 2 categories: Weak and Strong ...
Weak questions are disempowering. They keep your focused on your own ego, your problems, and your shortcomings. Weak questions keep you focused on what’s wrong… on what isn’t working.Yet weak questions are addictive. When you’re in a negative state or situation, you aren’t thinking clearly to begin with. You’re in no position to accurately diagnose yourself.
Strong questions are empowering. They keep you focused on solutions, on what you can control. When you focus on what you can do, you avoid falling into analysis paralysis. Ultimately the way out of any negative situation is right thinking. Wrong thinking leads you in circles. Right thinking leads to action.
If you don’t like the results you’re getting, try asking completely different questions from the ones you’re used to asking. Ask questions that turn your focus towards your goals instead of away from them. Ask questions that allow you to enhance the pleasure in your life instead of creating greater pain.
Asking questions in a group meeting holds many different purposes; main motivation is to enhance the helping process; other being, satisfying curiosity. While curiosity is not itself inappropriate, within a support group meeting questions motivated by curiosity are best kept at a minimum in order to respect members’ privacy and to not impede the helping process. Finally, questions may be used as fillers when a person lacks something to say. When used strategically, questions can get the group back on track again and pave the way for further discussion.
Our schools, jobs and society have trained us well to accept things the way they are. They tell us that nothing will change and it's useless to get a lot of people mad at you. You might get fired. Our bosses don't like questions; politicians don't like questions; our church leaders don't like questions and the questioner is usually seen as a troublemaker. Asking questions at stockholder meetings, political conventions, and business meetings to name a few can bring ridicule, embarrassment or trouble.
Although asking questions can create many problems, it is an act of power. The right question at the right time can be the beginning of a massive wave or support for change. Asking questions can cleanse and heal the land.
So, when you are on the side of asking questions, just think, whether you should ask this; will it anyway hurt the person you are asking; whether, the reply to this will be helpful to you in any way. And when you are on the side of answering the question, always think on the question (think that, you are the one who need to answer this; so don't ask questions on questions instead of answering unless it calls for); answer carefully and that will lead to a good relation ahead ...
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