New Year - 2008

Gone ...

ABOUT the little chambers of my heart
Friends have been coming--going--many a year.
The doors stand open there.
Some, lightly stepping, enter; some depart.
Freely they come and freely go, at will.
The walls give back their laughter; all day long
They fill the house with song.
One door alone is shut, one chamber still.

- Mary Elizabeth Coleridge

Gain or Loss ?

Pillars of Character ...

6 Pillars of Character ...

Trustworthiness

• Be honest
• Don’t deceive, cheat or steal
• Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do
• Have the courage to do the right thing
• Build a good reputation
• Be loyal — stand by your family, friends and country

Respect

• Treat others with respect; follow the Golden Rule
• Be tolerant of differences
• Use good manners, not bad language
• Be considerate of the feelings of others
• Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone
• Deal peacefully with anger, insults and disagreements

Responsibility

• Do what you are supposed to do
• Persevere: keep on trying!
• Always do your best
• Use self-control
• Be self-disciplined
• Think before you act — consider the consequences
• Be accountable for your choices

Fairness

• Play by the rules
• Take turns and share
• Be open-minded; listen to others
• Don’t take advantage of others
• Don’t blame others carelessly

Caring

• Be kind
• Be compassionate and show you care
• Express gratitude
• Forgive others
• Help people in need

Citizenship

• Do your share to make your school and community better
• Cooperate
• Get involved in community affairs
• Stay informed; vote
• Be a good neighbor
• Obey laws and rules
• Respect authority
• Protect the environment

Merry Xmas ...

Wish you all a very Happy and Prosperous Christmas ...

Our Life ...

Truth of Life ...

Silence ...

No sound in this world can be
louder than silence
&
if someone can't understand ur silence
they can never understand ur words!

Messages ...

TEN EMPOWERING MESSAGES TO TELL YOURSELF DAILY
1. Trust your instincts
2. Do your best
3. Count your blessings
4. Less is more
5. Monitor your thoughts
6. Acknowledge others often
7. Ask for help when you need it
8. Rest in solutions
9. Attitude is everything
10. Stop and smell the roses

Let these messages create for you a supportive and positive mental environment that will shape your attitudes and behaviors for success, and guide the actions you choose to take. Let your ten empowering messages…make your day.

Appraisal ...

Never Say...

And This Too Shall Pass ...

If I can endure for this minute
Whatever is happening to me,
No matter how heavy my heart is
Or how dark the moment may be-

If I can remain calm and quiet
With all the world crashing about me,
Secure in the knowledge God loves me
When everyone else seems to doubt me-

If I can but keep on believing
What I know in my heart to be true,
That darkness will fade with the morning
And that this will pass away, too-

Then nothing in life can defeat me
For as long as this knowledge remains
I can suffer whatever is happening
For I know God will break all of the chains

That are binding me tight in the darkness
And trying to fill me with fear-
For there is no night without dawning
And I know that my morning is near.

...Helen Steiner Rice

Friends ...

The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him ...

.... Ralph Waldo Emerson

In loneliness, in sickness, in confusion -- the mere knowledge of friendship makes it possible to endure, even if the friend is powerless to help. It is enough that they exist. Friendship is not diminished by distance or time, by imprisonment or war, by suffering or silence. It is in these things that it roots most deeply. It is from these things that it flowers ...

....Pam Brown

Life & Chance !!!

Life’s filled with possibilities
That challenges us each day… To take a chance
Try something new… See things in a different way
And as it’s through, we learn to change and grow
To explore who we are and what we know
For it’s not until we try
That we find out – WHAT WE CAN DO…
So don’t wait until tomorrow
To discover something new…

Have a Good Life !!!

Why Friends ? ...

GOD knew that everyone needs
Companionship and cheer,
He knew that people need someone
Whose thoughts are always near.

He knew they need someone kind
To lend a helping hand.
Someone to gladly take the time
To care and understand.

GOD knew that we all need someone
To share each happy day,
To be a source of courage
When troubles come our way.

Someone to be true to us,
Whether near or far apart.
Someone whose love we'll always
Hold and treasure in our hearts.

That's Why GOD Gave Us Friends!


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May ...

Happy Diwali ...

Season of Lights
Dunes of vapors from crackers rise,
Engulf, as odorous airs resound
Effusing joys to all abound
Pearls of gleams in these autumn nights
Adorn our lives else trite
With sparklers that motley skies
As soaring spirits of powder wander
Let us thank the heavenly might,
In this festive season of lights.

!!! Happy Diwali !!!

Be Cool...

Be cool, when you need to take a tough decision of your life ….

Success - Inside Out

Jeanne Sharbuno has truly said:

If there were a formula for living SUCCESS; SUCCESS…from the inside out, it would look like this:
Being + Doing + Having = Success…from the INSIDE OUT

1. BE
Be yourself. Know who you really are. Know what’s most important to you. Know what makes you unique. Know what you do best. This introspection and clarity will take you into the second stage.

2. DO
Do those things you do best. Use your gifts and talents in a way that helps others. Touch people in meaningful ways. Leave a lasting legacy. This takes you to the third stage.

3. HAVE
Have a life, not just a lifestyle. A life oriented around what’s most important to you. A life spent with those who matter most to you. A life with financial rewards for doing what you love to do.

Success happens… from the inside out...

Relation Ripple

Days pass by... and relations start rippling... stranger to some relation that you would have given some good name and then again tending to stranger (May not be exactly stranger, but somewhat of that sort; Yaa... I know, but do not remember correctly type). Friends, Best Friends and even Love all arrive as stranger to our lives; get some good name; starts improving on time and then the curve has to go down somewhere and it do go. Days pass and the darkeness and loneliness creeps in... We think of the past and wonder whethter we can have a better tomorrow with brand new relations or some other person in the lost relation ? We look for the answer; sometimes we do get the answer and sometimes not; but, it is somewhat strange to believe. Well, as said by some wise man, Every person who comes by in your life has a purpose in your life and you have some purpose in their lives. Some strange thing might have happened someday and today (or, some other day in future) you just remember that situation and that person and your mood changes for sometime; how can that happen if that had not left something in your mind? We are happy with all the relations that we have now, but still wonder, is it all that I can get from the present relations or am I missing something out of that ? We wonder if the friends that we made are the only ones that we are supposed to be friends with; or we will get some new of them in that relation who can make our life more beautiful or more worthy to live... Will there be some stranger who can complete our incomplete life someday or it is just an illusion ... Well, the last buttomline is Relation Ripples... It has to go up and come down somewhere sometime ....

Why I joined Engineering ?

Top 7 reasons why I joined Engineering

1. I hated sleep.
2. I had enjoyed my life enough.
3. I couldn't live without tension.
4. I wanted to pay for my sins.
5. I believed in the Bhagwad Geeta principle : "karm karo , phal ki ichha na karo"
6. Everything in life has a reason; I wanted to prove it wrong.
7. I wanted to take revenge on myself.

Confidence ...

Character ...

Love & Grief ...

It's my Joy ...

Thode badmash ho tum ...

A beautiful song from the movie "Saawariya" directed by Sanjay Leela Bhansali.

Song: Thode Badmash Ho Tum
Lyrics: Nusrat Badar
Music Director: Sanjay Leela Bhansali

Thode badmash ho tum
Thode Nadan ho tum

[Thode badmash ho tum
Thode Nadan ho tum
Haan magar yeh sach hai
Hamari jaan ho tum]2

Meri saanson ki jhankar ho tum
Mera solah shringar ho tum
Meri aankhon ka Intezar ho tum
Mera emaan meri shaan mera maan ho tum

Thode beimaaan ho tum
Thode saitaan ho tum
Thode beimaaan ho tum
Thode saitaan ho tum

Haan magar yeh sach hai
Mere Bhagwaan ho tum
Thode.ummmm um u mm m
Ummmm Nadan ho tum.

Umm umm um u m ummm
umm haan haaan haaan

hmhmm badmash .....

Road to Success ...

The Road to success is not straight ...

There is a curve called failure

A loop called confusionn

Speed bumps called friends

Red lights called enemies

Caution lights called family

You will have flats called jobs,

But, if you have a spare called determination

An engine called perseverance

Insurance called faith

A driver called God

You will make it to a place called Success!!! ...

A~Z Friend ...

A - Accepts you as you are

B - Believes in you

C - Calls you just to say "Hi"

D - Doesn't give up on you

E - Envisions the whole of you

F - Forgives your mistakes

G - Gives unconditionally

H - Helps you

I - Invites you over

J - Just likes to be with you

K - Keeps you close at heart

L - Loves you for who you are

M - Makes a difference in your life

N - Never judges you

O - Offers support

P - Picks you up when you're down

Q - Quiets your tears

R - Respects you

S - Says nice things about you

T - Tells you the truth when you need to hear it

U - Understands you

V - Values you

W - Walks besides you

X - Xplains things you don't understand

Y - Yells when you need to listen

Z - Zaps you back to reality ...

7 secrets of Success ...

One side Love ...

I'm not begging you to love me.

I'm not really even asking you.

But, isn't it alright

If I cherish that hope in my heart?

If I dream of just holding your hand,

It will hurt me - not you.

I will try to keep my eyes from shining

When they see you.

And I promise

I will try not to smile a special smile

When you say hello.

but, please

Don't ask me

Not to love you...

- Anonymous

I Miss U ...

Forget about ...

Forget about the days when

you've been LONELY,

but don't forget the

FRIENDLY SMILES

you've seen...

Forget about the days when

it has been CLOUDY,

but don't forget

YOUR HOUR

in the sun ...

Forget about the time when

you've been DEFEATED,
but don't forget the

VICTORIES

you've own...

Forget about misfortunes which

you ENCOUNTERED,

but don't forget the

TIMES

your LUCK has turned ...

Forget about mistakes that

you can't change NEW,

but don't forget the

LESSON

that you've learnt ...

Forget about the plans that

didn't seem to

work out right

but don't forget to

ALWAYS

have a DREAM ...

--- Life should not be a race. Let's try to make it a Journey of Love, Peace & Harmony ---

The Most ...

The most selfish one letter word ...

"I"

- Avoid it ...

The most satisfying two-letter word ...

"WE"

- Use it ...

The most poisonous three-letter word ...

"EGO"

- Kill it ...

The most used four-letter word ...

"LOVE"

- Value it ...

The most pleasing five-letter word ...

"SMILE"

- Keep it ...

The fastest spreading six-letter word ...

"RUMOUR"

- Ignore it ...

The hardest working seven-letter word ...

"SUCCESS"

- Achieve it ...

The most enviable eight-letter word ...

"JEALOUSY"

- Distance it ...

The most powerful nine-letter word ...

"KNOWLEDGE"

- Acquire it ...

The most essential ten-letter word ...

"CONFIDENCE"

- Trust it ...

Happy Vinayaka Chaturthi ...

... Ganapati Bappa Morya ...

... Jay Ganesh ...

Ganesha — the elephant-deity riding a mouse — has become one of the commonest mnemonics for anything associated with Hinduism. This not only suggests the importance of Ganesha, but also shows how popular and pervasive this deity is in the minds of the masses...

The Lord of Success: The son of Shiva and Parvati, Ganesha has an elephantine countenance with a curved trunk and big ears, and a huge pot-bellied body of a human being. He is the Lord of success and destroyer of evils and obstacles. He is also worshipped as the god of education, knowledge, wisdom and wealth. In fact, Ganesha is one of the five prime Hindu deities (Brahma, Vishnu, Shiva and Durga being the other four) whose idolatry is glorified as the panchayatana puja.

The Destroyer of Pride: Ganesha is also the destroyer of vanity, selfishness and pride. He is the personification of material universe in all its various magnificent manifestations.

Significance of the Ganesha Form: Ganesha's head symbolizes the Atman or the soul, which is the ultimate supreme reality of human existence, and his human body signifies Maya or the earthly existence of human beings. The elephant head denotes wisdom and its trunk represents Om, the sound symbol of cosmic reality. In his upper right hand Ganesha holds a goad, which helps him propel mankind forward on the eternal path and remove obstacles from the way. The noose in Ganesha's left hand is a gentle implement to capture all difficulties.

The broken tusk that Ganesha holds like a pen in his lower right hand is a symbol of sacrifice, which he broke for writing the Mahabharata. The rosary in his other hand suggests that the pursuit of knowledge should be continuous. The laddoo (sweet) he holds in his trunk indicates that one must discover the sweetness of the Atman. His fan-like ears convey that he is all ears to our petition. The snake that runs round his waist represents energy in all forms. And he is humble enough to ride the lowest of creatures, a mouse.

How Ganesha got His head: Once upon a time, the Goddess Gauri (consort of Lord Shiva), while bathing, created Ganesha as a pure white being out of the mud of Her Body and placed Him at the entrance of the house. She told Him not to allow anyone to enter while she went inside for a bath. Lord Shiva Himself was returning home quite thirsty and was stopped by Ganesha at the gate. Shiva became angry and cut off Ganesha's head as He thought Ganesha was an outsider.

When Gauri came to know of this she was really mad. To console her grief, Shiva ordered His servants to cut off and bring to Him the head of any creature that might be sleeping with its head facing north. The servants went on their mission and found only an elephant in that position. The sacrifice was thus made and the elephant's head was brought before Shiva. The Lord then joined the elephant's head onto the body of Ganesha.

Lord Shiva made His son worthy of worship at the beginning of all undertakings, marriages, expeditions, studies, etc. He ordained that the annual worship of Ganesha should take place on the 4th day of the bright half of Bhadrab...

Target Hit ...

A Friend ...

Vande Mataram ...

Here goes my first video post ...

A tribute to India on her 60th Birhtday...

... Vande Mataram ...

Mind and Meaning ...

“What is this?”, “What is that?” types of questions are common and we do answer to them if we know. But most of the time, we do not exercise our mind much on the question, and we answer the simple universal answer “I don’t know”. Simple words; yet are the answer to all questions …

Have you ever realized that you can get an answer or rather, a better answer if you pause for some seconds before answering to that by thinking on that for sometime? When you think “you already know what that is, but you are unable to express at that time”; that actually means, you don’t know the answer or at least clearly.

Heard a question, your mind started thinking, Oh... this one, I know, but rarely can it remember now and hence can’t express the answer. Why don’t we think that we don’t know the meaning of that… Let’s find out… Let’s try to understand that … Let’s try to get a permanent answer to that; so that our mind can have a snapshot of that word, meaning or question, answer for future …

Looks simple, right? But ask yourself the meaning of a word that you are very familiar with; and try to come up with some explanation… Can you? Most of the cases, the answer is NO. Then, take a pause, pretend that you don’t know to yourself and then you think for sometime, I am sure, you will have something better explanation than you might have given at the very first time before this pause thinking.

Why this happens first of all? May be, because, we feel too ashamed of the fact that our mind is unaware of the thing which is of interest in a particular context. Think on this, ask some small questions to your mind, and try to get good meaning out of that …

All the very best!!!

Why do I blog ?

Few days back, my brother suddenly asked me, “Do you know what Blogging is?”… Surprised of his question, I felt happy to hear that question from him as I had something to tell on that as part of his answer. Those days, I had started blogging… After answering to his question, I told him that I have also one blog to my credit and I have already written some 20 posts. I think, he got surprised, as he had never seen me in that habit… And his surprise made me surprise too. I started thinking, Why am I blogging?

I had never thought I would blog one day... for not one but many reasons (one strong reason is I thought, I am very poor in writing). Mention not, I am a person who hasn’t even maintained a dairy to pen down personal thoughts. And so I am pretty surprised with myself; surprised to see my thoughts find their way out and even more surprised to accept that they will be visible to the whole world... (That was my brother’s line too…; hey, it will be open to whole world !!!)

I have always been lucky to have family and friends around me, with whom I could share what I think. Be it my joy or my despair, my confidence or my inner apprehensions; my celebrations on a success or reflections to learn from my mistakes; to share a laugh and to moan a cry; to participate and to guide; to understand and nurture my thoughts; to discuss and to analyze. They've been there all throughout.

But now, life is changing totally, always hectic schedule, seldom getting family and friends around… That time, I think, at least I can pen down my feelings, my thoughts somewhere that I can come back someday and realize myself where I was and how I was. It is always good those to be accompanied by date, so that you can drag your time back to that date and feel what you had felt on that day, realize how you were, and apprehend with your past… And being open to the whole world, will bring some comments on your thoughts that you can improve upon or at least think on ... A beautiful means of put your thoughts up...

Seriously do not know how far I can continue this business, I do not know whether I can withstand the determination to write, or I will come up with some lame excuse of being busy and not getting time to do so… Really do not know... But will try to keep this habit up, so that I can revisit my past some day through these blog pages…

My Stupid Suicide Plan - Chetan Bhagat

Last week, an IITian committed suicide. People who commit suicide do it when they feel there's no future. But wait, isn't IIT the one place where a bright and shining future is a foregone conclusion? It just doesn't add up, does it? Why would a young, hardworking, bright student who has the world ahead of him do something like this? But the answer is this-in our constant reverence for the great institution (and I do believe IITs are great), we forget the dark side. And the dark side is that the IITs are afflicted by the quintessential Indian phenomenon of academic pressure, probably the highest in the world.

I can rant about the educational system and how it requires serious fixing, or I can address the immediate-try my best to prevent such suicides. For this column I have chosen the latter, and I do so with a personal story.

News of a suicide always brings back one particular childhood memory. I was 14 years old when I first seriously contemplated suicide. I had done badly in chemistry in the Class X half yearly exam. I was an IIT aspirant, and 68% was nowhere near what an IIT candidate should be getting. I don't know what had made me screw up the exam, but I did know this, I was going to kill myself. The only debate was about method. Ironically, chemistry offered a way. I had read about copper sulphate, and that it was both cheap and poisonous. Copper sulphate was available at the kirana store. I had it all worked out.

My rationale for killing myself was simple-nobody loved me, my chemistry score was awful, I had no future and what difference would it make to the world if I was not there. I bought the copper sulphate for two rupees-probably the cheapest exit strategy in the world.

I didn't do it for two reasons. One, I had a casual chat with the aunty next door about copper sulphate, and my knowledgeable aunty knew about a woman who had died that way. She said it was the most painful death possible, all your veins burst and you suffer for hours. This tale mademy insides shudder. Second, on the day I was to do it, I noticed a street dog outside my house being teased by the neighborhood kids as he hunted for scraps of food. Nobody loved him. It would make no difference to the world if the dog wasn't there. And I was pretty sure that its chemistry score would be awful. Yet, the dog wasn't trotting off to the kirana store. He was only interested in figuring out a strategy for his next meal. And when he was full, he merely curled up in a corner with one eye open, clearly content and not giving a damn about the world. If he wasn't planning to die anytime soon what the hell was I ranting about? I threw the copper sulphate in the bin. It was the best two bucks I ever wasted.

So why did I tell you this story? Because sometimes the pressure gets too much; like it did for the IITian who couldn't take it no more. On the day he took that dreadful decision, his family and friends were shattered, and India lost a wonderful, bright child. And as the silly but true copper sulphate story tells you-it could happen to any of us or those around us.

So please be on the lookout, if you see a distressed young soul, lend a supportive, non-judgmental ear. When I look back, I thank that aunt and that dog for unwittingly saving my life. If God wanted us to take our own life, he would have provided a power off button. He didn't, so have faith and let his plan for you unfold. Because no matter how tough life gets and how much it hurts, if street dogs don't give up, there is no reason why we, the smart species, should. Makes sense right?

by Chetan Bhagat

Why watching cricket ???

One Life ...

Simplicity ...

• The aspects of things that are most important to us are hidden because of their simplicity and familiarity.
• A taste for simplicity cannot last for long.
• Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication.
• Simplicity of character is no hindrance to the subtlety of intellect.
• The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.
• It is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all.
• Making the simple complicated is commonplace; making the complicated simple, awesomely simple, that's creativity.
• Purity and simplicity are the two wings with which man soars above the earth and all temporary nature.
• Simplicity, clarity, singleness: these are the attributes that give our lives power and vividness and joy.
• Simplicity is indeed often the sign of truth and a criterion of beauty.
• Simplicity is the nature of great souls.
• Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler. I believe that a simple and unassuming manner of life is best for everyone, best both for the body and the mind.

When a GIRL ...

Nostalgia ...

From day 1 of my blogging, I have been thinking to write something on my college days, but I always start typing a few sentences and feel that I am missing something out here. Sometimes, lots of thinking go in my mind that I would think it would be a very long post if I pen down all that, but never ever I could do that. May be the thirst of completing it perfectly is not gone yet, so could not catch the start of it. Then, my second mind says, come on, you have experienced this… and you are not writing something that you need to create before penning down…just write what you have experienced… how did it go…how you miss those days…So with all my patience put together to write this, here I go…

Passed my college life, started struggling for a job, (BTW, it was not that stringent struggle, but can be termed so)...Time passed… got a job… really brought a lot of happiness for me and for my family too that were eagerly waiting for that stage of me, may be more than me. Met new people there and life was totally new there. (I cannot forget those days in my first company. will write more on this in another post… this place is reserved for something else)…

I was talking about my college days, 3 years before my job life. My life was totally different then, I was kind of shy guy not caring of others… did not know what a friend is and what life outside home is… Mention not, that was for the first time, I was about to stay in a hostel far from my home and family…I was feeling very uncomfortable there as I was too reluctant to make new friends… I was kind of thinking that the whole world is just opposite to me… Will they accept me as I am? Can I be a friend of them? Lots of questions were creating waves in my little mind…

Days passed and I started making new friends. Every person I saw had something unique, that I can learn. Initially there was some language problem as most of them were talking in Hindi, and I was not that good in that language. But, things became clear day by day. I think, more than me, they started believing on me… Then the wave of belief changed my thinking on the same word... I started believing others.. I thought, may be I could learn something from those guys.. I have something missing that the other guys had… thereby; I could be a friend and learn those things from those…

I came to know that to survive in this world; you need to know lot of things that I was literally unaware of. The spirit of friendship flew through my blood… I respected that relation more than all… I learned, that is the only relation that you can have faith on… and that relation can change you completely… Well, the change depends on the way you want to drive it… Well, for me, it was a good experience to get along with so many new friends.. Life was too happy that I cannot describe here other than telling that, all days were passing without my notice. . too good were those days… I always wished, I could be among them forever…

But the final day came… We had to leave… did not know who will go where and what will they do after going from college… Everybody had a strange feeling… We all gathered together, Everybody were asked to speak something.. Lot of friends told a lot… but, in my mind, I was feeling something else… I was feeling like I am loosing something valuable from my life… did not know whether I will get these type of environment again and friends like these… I felt like a looser and I wished if I could stop them, I could explain them what they meant to me. My turn came, and I could not speak anything…although, I wished to tell a lot… I was really upset and the moisture in my eyes told all that I wanted to tell…. I was listening to all of them telling the line “Be in touch…”, but I was thinking, there is a lot of difference in “Being actually there” and “Being in touch”….

Gone are those days… But, still when I am alone, I go over all the past memories that I carry from there .. I can never forget that memory in my life time… I am still “in touch” with all my friend as far as I can, but I really miss “Being actually there” ….

Timepass with "Khosla Ka Ghosla" ...

I was getting bored at home, suddenly Yahoo messenger message window popped up.

sk: Chinu bhaiya, How are you ?

me: Fine sir. Tum kaise ho?

sk: Fine bhaiya. Aur kaha ho aaj kal aap ?

me: Filhaal US mein huin. Aur sunao kya chal raha hai ?...

----- Long gap ----

sk: Sorry bhaiya, movie dekh raha tha.

me: OK, kaunsa ?

sk: Khosla Ka Ghosla. TV mein aa raha tha...

me: Good movie, right?

sk: Yes, too good. It's too late night now. I have to go to bed.

me: Ok, bye. Take care. Good Night.

sk: Bye. Take care....

The chat session ended and I searched for the movie in "Youtube.com" & a series of movie parts were there. So I thought of watching those... Thanks a ton to "youtube.com" for holding the largely acclaimed movie "Khosla Ka Ghosla"... I had heard a lot about that movie, but never had gotten a chance before... So I eagerly watched and the movie ended in no-time....

They say, you are watching a movie, and if you see suddenly the end screen without realizing that you have actually finished the movie, the movie is "Good"... then... lot of categories follow... "Too Good", "Wow..Amazing".. and lot more .... No doubt, "KKG" is one of that category movie...

KKG is a film that has a plausible storyline, identificable situations and characters and it is portrayed in an extremely intelligent way. The story has caught the plight of common man, average common man's life struggle; not showing anything extraordinary. And that made this movie different and a complete joy to watch; a total refreshing movie indeed...

Lively characters played by all, especially Anupam Kher (K.K.Khosla), Vinay Pathak and Boman Irani (Khurana)... This movie is about the dream of Mr. Khosla who wanted to buy a land and own a house by investing his entire life's earning and finally cheated by a corrupt (Khurana), who usurps the land that belongs to Khosla. Then, with a strong support by Vinay pathak, how both of the sons of Khosla, try to get back the land....

The movie is a clean and honest one... The humor injected at regular intervals kept the movie more interesting and alive... A must watch movie...

How to Succeed ? ...

Got a very good presentation on "How to Succeed"... It points out 15 tips... Here they go...

1. Don't talk negatively about people behind their backs. If you gossip, people won't confide in you. Mind your own business.
2. Try to work for someone who'll challenge your powers. You'll learn more in a year than 4 years of college.
3. Successful bosses have good communication skills. They learn from people, including their employees.
4. Work in such a way that makes your boss look good. It's not flattery.
5. On downsizing, the first to go are those with few friends. Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect.
6. Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. Let your dress reflect your professionalism.
7. Workout to get in good physical shape. unless exceptionally skilled, the unhealthy are at a comparative disadvantage.
8. Personal integrity is crucial. Tell nothing but the truth. Bosses can forgive mistakes, but if you lie, you're gone.
9. Be on time. Try to arrive fee minutes early. It saves you from stress. You'll be much relaxed & work better.
10. Strive your best to keep a deadline. If you cannot meet it, then apologize & ask for an extension.
11. Don't take things personally. If some people are unhappy with you, it's their problem. But always strive to give your best.
12. If you must correct someone, don't get personal about it. Do it never in front of others.
13. Spend some time alone everyday. What's the mission of my life? What do I want to be? And how to go about it?
14. As you move along Plan A of your career, maintain a Plan B as well - an alternative course to rely.
15. Always remember that the secret of success is passion. Always think big. Spread love & joy. You'll have blissful years ahead.

Sleepless Nights ...

It's been 2 weeks I am here in Milpitas, California state, USA. It is my 3rd trip to the same place; am staying in the same hotel. Spent just more than 2 weeks; 15 sleepless nights...

I hate sleepless nights... I used to have sound sleeps and I was unknowlingly proud of this fact; by the very support of my friends and relatives, who used to say that, sound sleep is a reflection of a sound, clean and happy man. So may be, I was thinking I am a clean and happy man. Well, I cannot think of any other reason of my proudness here as seriously I actually didn't know what they really wanted to tell... Hmm, sometimes you feel one side only when you see the other side ...

Well, I think, I started seeing the other side being here in USA .. sleepless nights... now, I can say I hate these... I was quite happy sleeping 9 hours each night. I donot know the actual reason of this... could be anything, that you can guess... (I am not able to guess anything myself...).. May be, I have done something wrong, that my inner mind still has not forgotten and making me restless... Donno for sure... (I have this habit of not sleeping at nights when I have done something wrong; at least in the view of others)... May be office work pressure... (I donot undersand, if this would be the case, then I should sleep more :) )... May be some blah..blah... God knows... May be Jet Lag (Now, my heart is little happy as it got a word !!!)

I wish that the reason should only be "Jet Lag"; nothing else; so that I will be back to my routine time after sometime and thereby, be a clean and happy man again :D

Humanity ...

The One-minute Manager ...

If you guessed it someone as One Day CM (In movie, NAYAK), then you are wrong, this One Minute Manager, speaks about the qualities that a good manager should have.

[Title] is a very famous book by Ken Blanchard and Spencer Johnson. The authors state, whether you're a manager at home or the office, the same principles apply.

The Fundamentals of The One-Minute Manager: Extremely simple, Follow the three: Set Goals, Praise and Reprimand.

One Minute Goals:

• Keep them simple
• Make sure you both agree on them
• Have your staff summarize the agreed-upon goal in no more than one page
• Focus on the 20% of activities that will lead to 80% of the gains
• Don't make the process of managing too many goals overwhelming—no more than 3-6 at a time

One Minute Praisings:

• Pay close attention to staff up front
• Monitor activity—look for things done right that you can praise
• Praise in person, specifically pointing out what was done well
• Be consistent—even if you're having a tough day/week, praise the positive

One Minute Reprimands:

• Don't let mistakes pile up!
• Immediately correct mistakes—don't make the mistake most manager make and wait until review time to bombard someone with their mistakes
• Be consistent
• Be specific—agree on the facts
• Be clear about how you feel about the poor behavior
• Do not attack the person—address the behavior, not the individual
• After communicating dissatisfaction with behavior, praise the individual
• Establish the fact that you are only sharing your disappointment because you respect them and expect so much from them

Tears & Love ...

She said love is a dream. He said love is a sham. She said love was life. He said love is a farce. She said love is divine. He said love is evil. They were diversity brought together. She was a dreamer, he a realist. But what they had in common was respect for each other. And of course, they were friends.

For the rest, it was a wonder how they got along so well. When mentioned, she used to give a wry smile and he, used to just roll his eyes. But they did get along so well. After all they were supposed to be mature and grown up when it came to relationships.

She was a prankster. He was very serious. She loved to make faces, talk like a kid, fool around and majorly have fun. He was just the opposite. For him, work was worship. She loved to have more friends. He kept to his old friends. Cherished them, and was willing to die for them. She had loads of friends, and kept forgetting people’s names when they called her up. He used to shout at her. She was not the one used with being shouted at. But she understood that he meant her well. And used to accept him, as he was. This did not mean that they did not have fights between themselves. They fought teeth and nail. The walked away from each other like bitter enemies. But they always came back together. And their friends used to say “Heavens alone know why and when”!

Then, she had to go to a distant place. And she found that he was a part of her life. But she kept it to herself. Because she was bound to another by marriage. As they stood at the check in counter of the airport, they shook hands, parting way as friends do. Both knew, they may never see themselves again. She did not make an eye contact with him till she walked past the security gate. But then she could not control herself, she looked back, and their eyes met. And in his eyes, she saw a tear; a tear which said that he had changed his views on love...

From
Editor's Choice, Jan, 2007

My Search Engine ...

Ever wished to own a search engine like Google ? Hmm.... , became true now...

www.googlealive.com gives you a chance to rebrand Google…

Logon to this site... Enter your name, and get "Your named Google" [:)]

Love at first sight ...

Here goes my blog on love for those who have been waiting for a long to hear something of love from me... Sorry.. it's bit late as was busy with lot of other stuffs... And, for those, who had asked the question "Do you believe in [title]?" to me directly/indirectly, here the whole story (my thought...) goes...

To start with, there are three words, that come to my mind, when I think over the [title]; Attraction, Crush and Love... First let me clarify, this is not only applicable only for 'him'/'her', it could also be 'it'; I mean, falling in love with her/him/it.

Love at first sight? Well, why not! First impression always counts. But, the word is wrong here.. It cannot be LOVE, it is merely Attraction/Crush... One can probably or never judge the chemistry involved in love. There are no chemical or mathematical equations proving love at first sight. One fine morning/evening, you see her/him/it, and some feeling come to you. How can we explain that tingle, that spark, that connection that you feel with a person upon first seeing her/him/it? Could it just be Lust. One thing for sure, it is not, nor can it be Love...

Love is something that is built on far more concrete stuff. Compatibility, understanding, trust, security, respect, etc. None of these are present upon a first meeting, and therefore, by definition, our feeling, however powerful, can not be love.

Love at first sight is believed in by people who either don't know, or don't want to admit that the pull of a purely physical attraction can be that intense. Love at first sight is a fallacy, a romantic notion. How can you love somebody at first sight.. Too silly!!!

But, here are some words in favour of LOVE... Love is not a commodity that you can buy after putting it to the test. It is not something that you can buy after consulting others. It is not sold in the market for money. When you see a man/woman and your pulsees race, your blood begins to sing and you yearn to spend the rest of your life only with him/her, sharing his joys and sorrows - that is love. It is irrepressible; it cannot be crushed whatever the pressures. Who he/she is, or what his/her family, or where he/she works is immaterial. You love somebody whole-heartedly. You even donot know whether she/he loves you or not.

But all this happens in time... not at first sight... but, surely starts from the attraction at the first sight... People know what kind 0f relationship they got to maintain with another within few minutes of meeting, that helps them determine how much effort they are willing to put into developing a relationship, It is almost a self fulfilling prophecy.

Well, there are lots of questions to be answered when you think in these lines... Is there such a thing as love at the first sight? Or it is just infatuation? How is it possible to feel so much for a stranger, a passerby? Love has no limits, no color, no time...I see but... How can you love the person you have just met? Is this love at first sight, or merely an attraction that later turns to love? Difficult to know... I respect whom has this firm belief, but still have some doubts about...passion can be, but love...real love...don't know...

Information & Knowledge ...

Suddenly remembered the days, when I had a course called "MIS" (Management Information Systems) in my Computer Application course... Never gave a hard thought on that other than reading only for getting some good score in exam paper. Well, we had a secret plan to do so (Applicable to that teacher and my room-mates :D. Don't laugh Sanotosh, Ratnesh and Udayan, if you are reading this). Two of the words from that book just came into my mind "Information" and "Knowledge" when recently I was going through some article ... So few words on these two words...

The article was on "Knowledge Management"; the title sounded somewhat different.. Had heard of "Information Management", but what is this "Knowledge Mangement". Are these two words "Information" and "Knowledge" same ? Deep few pages of that article explained that ... Let me put that in my own words here ...

Information does not need a carrier; but knowdelge does. Human beings are the carriers most of the time; sometimes generators and processors too... So from a higher perspective, we can say that managing knowledge is nothing but managing people... So in an organisation, if you are capable of inducing people to generate ideas, share thougths, collaborate, apply their knowledge, learn continuously and act upon them, you are done!, you started managing knowledge of the organization...

Now one more point on Knowledge sharing.. A big task and do happen most of the time in most organization... Why all the time it does not happen 100% as we expect it to be... Well, how it can be... Knowledge is not bare information, it has to got something to do with the person who is having that, or rather sharing that... He must be carrying some of his experiences, some linking with his/her own life; so as to be called his/her knowledge. Well, in the process of sharing, he/she tries to demonstrate some of those along with sharing the information. Now, the listener take that information in his/her own way to make that his/her part of knowledge. So it is important to understand that the "knowledge transfer" is complete only when we explain the reasons, causes, logic and the intricacies of the action under question. Knowledge equips the knowledge seeker to think on his/her own some time down the line, analyze things by himself/herself, understand the methodology and apply concepts and tools in future situations without requiring external support.

Lastly, as far as the difference goes between these two words; as long as the why and how are understood, it does qualify to be called knowledge rather than information. Superstitions, for example, are labeled so when there is no information about the reasoning behind them. The minute such a belief is backed by the why (and how wherever applicable), it ceases to be bare information and becomes richer knowledge because it allows knowledge seekers to understand, evaluate, agree/disagree and use it in their own lives!

Independence Day ...

Friendship Day ...

Innocence ...

Innocence is a term that describes the lack of guilt of an individual, with respect to a crime. It may also be used to indicate a general lack of guilt, with respect to any kind of crime, sin, or wrongdoing. It can also refer to a state of unknowing, where one's experience is lesser, in either a relative view to social peers, or by an absolute comparison to a more common normative scale. In contrast to ignorance, it is generally viewed as a positive term, connoting a blissfully positive view of the world, in particular one where the lack of knowledge stems from a lack of wrongdoing, whereas greater knowledge comes from doing wrong.

A man without home is not a man. The only place where we all feel completely comfortable, where we can really be ourselves, is in the privacy of our own homes. But the man who has lost his innocence has no home. Everywhere he goes invites discomfort. Without innocence there can be no peace. Without peace, there can likewise be no happiness.

Innocence is bliss and more. It is happiness. It is satisfaction. It is learning. It is peace. It is joy. It is intrinsic; the natural state of man. Innocence is God. All of us have come away from our natural states…and maybe not for the better. We have lost our innocence and instead substituted it with manipulation, cunningness, selfishness, cruelty and what not... One reason why the ‘grown-up’ man talks about learning from children is the fact that they have something that we don’t - Innocence.

Always Remember ...

Be Truthful ...

Life Passes By ...

Just Smile ...

Every day can be a beautiful day.

Just take a look around you

and think about all of the

wonderful things you have to be thankful for...

the sunshine,

roses,

laughter,

close friends,

family,

music,

and beautiful dreams.

The storm is never

half as bad as it seems.

Don't let the rain ruin your day.

When the dark clouds move in

just smile,

because the good times

are on the way.

Desh ki Mitti ...

"Desh Ki Mitti" is a hero's remembrance of his country's soil and is sung beautifully by Sonu Nigam and Anuradha Shriram. A number that deserves a peaceful hearing, it is soft and pretty effective due to melodious tune.

Mujhe yaad aati hai
Mujhe yaad aati hai...
Apne des ki mitti ki khushbu
Mujhe yaad aati hai
Apne des ki mitti ki khushbu
Mujhe yaad aati hai

Kabhi behelati hai
Kabhi thadpati hai
Kabhi behelati hai
Kabhi thadpati hai
Mujhe yaad aati hai...oh...
Apne des ki mitti
Apne des ki mitti ki khushbu
Mujhe yaad aati hai

Beete pal choone lagien hain dil ko aise
Dost rakhe haath kandhe pe jaise
Kaisi yeh kiranein aisi chan rahin hain
Kaisi tasveerien aisi ban rahin hain
Kitnein mausam yaad mein hain aate jaate
Baarishayi khul gayen hein kalay chaate
Din hain alsaaye huye jo aayi garmi
Sardiyon ki dhoop mein hai kaisi narmi
Pal pal ik samay ki nadiya hai jo beheti jaati hai

Apne des ki mitti ki khushbu
Mujhe yaad aati hai...

Pighale tanhaayiyon ke hain jo andhere
Jagmagane se lagein hai kitne chehrey
Ek lori hai ek laal bindiya
Laut aayi hai mere bachpan ki nindiya
Woh koyi ik taarey pe kabse gaa raha hai
Koi aanchal jaaney kyoon lehera raha hai
Har ghadi mein baat ek yaad aa rahi hai
Dil mein pagdandi si jaise ban gayi hai
Yeh pagdandi mere dil se mere des jaati hai

Apne des ki mitti ki khushbu
Mujhe yaad aati hai
Apne des ki mitti ki khushbu
Mujhe yaad aati hai
Mujhe yaad aati hai ...

I Believe ...

A beautiful poem by Kayla Neil on belief ... Here it goes ...

I believe that the sun shines after the rain

I believe if you don't get hurt you'll never gain

I believe in not doing things the easy way

I believe that being selfish doesn’t pay

I believe in a second chance

I believe in a life long romance

I believe there is life after death

And standing up to a life of mess

I believe in love at first sight

I believe that revenge isn’t right

I believe that first impressions last

And there is nothing better than a good laugh

I believe that dreams do come true

I believe there's destiny for me and you

I believe that good things come to those who wait

I believe love never arrives too late

I believe something good comes from something bad

I believe that for tears of happiness there are tears of sad

I believe everyone has a guardian angel

And the good you do will be rewarded well

I believe sometimes there is no explanation

I believe money can't buy people's affection

I believe you don't know what you've got until it's gone

I believe a new day arrives with every dawn

I believe a smile can be contagious

I believe in being very outrageous

I believe in living with no regrets

I believe that life is as good as it gets

I believe that God watches over us

I believe the little things are worth the fuss

I believe you have each friend for a reason

I believe you will get punished for treason

I believe that what comes first is family

I believe we should all live in harmony

I believe in making the most of a beautiful day

And it's not the end until everything's okay

I believe absence makes the heart grow fonder

I believe you will lose if you sit and wonder

I believe every experience teaches you a lesson

And nothing cures better than a drinking session

I believe everyone has one true love

I believe sometimes we need a little shove

I believe the whole world is a stage

I believe we only get better with age

I believe that to learn you have to live

I believe that to love someone you have to give

I believe one moment can change your life

And there's still help when you’re in strife

I believe everyone has one true friend

I believe love helps a broken heart mend

I believe in the power of a song

And things will change before too long

I believe living is the best experience

I believe in not laughing at other people’s expense

I believe it’s hard to watch a lover leave

And when they’re gone all you can do is breath

I believe to always look on the bright side

I believe that life is just one big ride

I believe when I die people will grieve

But it’s ok because I believe

Ekla Chalo ...

Movie: Bose - The Forgotten Hero

Lyrics: Javed Akhtar

Music: A R Rahman

Ekla Chalo begins with a soft Bengali prelude by Nachiketa Chakraborty. It’s mesmerizing tone sets up the mood blending Sonu Nigam’s soothing vocals. Javedsaab elevates his lyricism to new heights through this call for unity. Sonu Nigam shines with his hypnotic rendition. These numbers will grow on you as you delve deeper into Javed Akhtar’s masterful poetry...

Jothi tor daak sune keu naa aashe

(if no one comes heeding your call)

tobe ekla chalo re

(walk alone)

ekla chalo ekla chalo ekla chalo

ekla chalo re

(just walk alone)

tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega

(the forlorn traveller will tread his way)

tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega

ab to jo bhi hoga dekha jayega

(now whatever happens will be taken care of)

ab to jo bhi hoga dekha jayega

tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega

tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega

ab to jo bhi hoga dekha jayega

bojh ho mushkilon ka magar

(though the hardships weigh heavy on us)

na jhuka hain na jhuk sakega yeh sir

(this head hadn't bowed down, nor will it ever)

zinda phir bhi rahega mera zameer

(my soul and spirit will be alive)

jism ko maut bhi aa jaye agar

(though death shall overtake my body)

tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega
tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega
ab to jo bhi hoga dekha jayega

bazzi pe lagane ki khatir hum jaan hatheli par laye

(I have brought my life to gamble with it)

ab chahe jiye ab chahe mare jo hona hain woh ho jaye

(we may die, we may live, let it happen as it will)

manzilein kabhii kyaa milegii hamen

(will we attain our goals)

hogi kya sehal kabhi jo raah hain kadi

(will this difficult road be ever easy)

aaj har jawab humko mil jayega

(this day we'll have all the answers)

aa gayi hain aaj faisle ki ghadi

(this day its the time to decide)

tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega

tanha rahi apni rah chalta jayega

ab to jo bhi hoga dekha jayega

dekha jayega ...

Confidence, Trust & Hope ...

CONFIDENCE: Once all village people decided to pray for rain.

On the day of prayer all people gathered and only one boy came with an umbrella....

TRUST: Trust should be like the feeling of a one year old baby when you throw him in the air; he laughs.....because he knows you will catch him....

HOPE: Every night we go to bed, we have no assurance to get up alive in the next morning but still we have plans for the coming day...

KEEP CONFIDENCE…!!

TRUST OTHERS…..!!

NEVER LOSE HOPE……!!