Space, Silence & Solitude

A nice article I found on 3 S's: Space, Silence and Solitude.
http://www.problogger.net/archives/2011/10/05/space-%E2%80%A6-silence-solitude-%E2%80%A6-what-i-need-more-of-as-a-blogger/

At 3 different places, I found the third S differently : Here are they:
1. Silence, Solitude and Space
2. Silence, Solitude and Stillness
3. Silence, Solitude and Simplicity

The walk...

For last few days it has been raining heavily in Chennai and everywhere it is muddy and muddy; maybe because Chennai roads were never prepared for this kind of sudden and heavy rain. After such days of heavy rain, one early morning I was finding difficult to walk across a road that comes in my regular morning walk. When I saw from a distance, it looked that I can not make it that day without getting my shoes muddy and wet; a mission impossible with the strict restriction that I should not make my shoe or my trouser wet and muddy. Then, I applied the law of local optimum; I stopped looking to the end of the road. I said, let me cross one step, by jumping on a small place that is not so much muddy to make my shoes muddy. So I started hopping from one end to another on the road and finally, hurray, I had completed the mission. I said, wow, why can not this be used in real life. EVerytime, I get a project or feature, I say, it is too big, will I be able to handle or take care of this? But things happen in its own course of time. Maybe, I should start applying the law of local optimum; instead of worrying too much for the final destination, I should break it into smaller milestones that could be realized and achieved. The total distance that I may have travelled that day could be more than the usual distance I would have covered if that was not a muddy road. Nevertheless, instead of worrying too much at the initial stage, I thought it was real cool and wise to walk a little more distance and to reach the destination. To solve a complex problem, we need to break into many simpler problems and then tackle each of them which is a lot easier process to accomplish...

LIFE

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.

-Mother Teresa

Ants Philosophy ...

All of us tend to look up to big people for lessons on how to get better. We are keen to learn the secrets of their success. But we forget that sometimes the biggest lessons in life come from the smallest folks around us. Now that’s a good lesson to remember!
Take ants for instance. Would you believe those small creatures can teach us how to live a better life? Jim Rohn - the great motivational guru – developed what he called the ‘Ants Philosophy’.
He identified four key lessons from the behaviour of ants that can help us lead better lives..

1. Ants never quit: Have you noticed how ants always look for a way around an obstacle? Put your finger in an ant’s path and it will try and go around it, or over it. It will keep looking for a way out. It won’t just stand there and stare. It won’t give up and go back.
We should all learn to be like that. There will always be obstacles in our lives. The challenge is to keep trying, keep looking for alternative routes to get to our goals. Winston Churchill probably paraphrased the ant’s mindset when he offered this priceless advice: “Never give up. Never, never give up!”

2. Ants think winter all summer: Remember the old story of the ant and the grasshopper? In the middle of summer, the ant was busy gathering food for the winter ahead – while the grasshopper was out having a good time. Ants know that summer - the good times – won’t last forever. Winters will come. That’s a good lesson to remember. When the going is good, don’t be so arrogant as to believe that a crisis or a setback cannot happen to you. Be good to other people. Save for a rainy day. Look ahead. And remember, good times may not last, but good people do.

3. Ants think summer all winter: As they suffer through the unbearable cold of the winter, ants keep reminding themselves that it won’t last forever, and that summer will soon be here. And with the first rays of the summer sun, the ants come out – ready to work, ready to play. When we are down and seemingly out, when we go through what looks like a never-ending crisis, it’s good to remind ourselves that this too shall pass. Good times will come. It’s important to retain a positive attitude, an attitude that says things will get better. As the old saying goes, tough times don’t last. Tough people do.

4. Ants do all they possibly can: How much food does an ant gather in summer? All that it possibly can! Now that’s a great work ethic to have... Do all you can! One ant doesn’t worry about how much food another ant is collecting. It does not sit back and wonder why it should have to work so hard. Nor does it complain about the poor pay! Ants just do their bit. They gather all the food they can. Success and happiness are usually the result of giving 100% - doing all you possibly can. If you look around you, you’ll find that successful people are those who just do all they possibly can.

And there’s just one more lesson to learn from ants. Did you know that an ant can carry objects up to 20 times their own weight? Maybe we are like that too. We can carry burdens on our shoulders and manage workloads that are far, far heavier than we’d imagine. Next time something’s bothering you and weighing you down, and you feel you just can’t carry on, don’t fret. Think of the little ant. And remember, you too can carry a lot more on your shoulders!

One page from a S/W Engg diary ...

I got this as an e-mail. It felt so true and real that I have posted here...

My feet were getting numb. My arms were getting tired. But I sat there, looking at the monitor, pretending to work. What if I slept off on the keyboard? What would people around me think? Am I not competitive enough. Would another night out hurt. "No it won't." I consoled myself. "Work a little more." I told myself. Images of links between tables and pages from what we call, ETRMs crossed my mind. "Why?" I asked myself. "Why doesn't my mind wander away to the more beautiful things in life?" "Why does it always have to be WORK!!!?"

That was it. I couldn't take it anymore. I pressed the shutdown button on the PC as if to say, "I hate you". As if in reply, it took me twice to shut it down. I kicked my locker and walked out of my cubicle. The security at the reception looked into my eyes sympathetically. I pretended like I am solving problems in my head. As if the world depended on my silly program. As if to justify the fact that the Security needs to respect me. I hated myself. I walked down the corridor towards the lift.

There I was, on the fifth floor. It was 3.30 in the morning. The terrace looked deserted. I loved the feeling. I was all alone. Just me, and the sky and the stars and the early morning breeze. I looked all around. The world looked much beautiful. Somewhere, far away, I could see lights. I presume that must have been another workplace where people like me are working away at their PCs.

I stood at the edge of the terrace. As I looked at the road that ran in front of our office, I slowly kept my palm on the wall. A chill ran down my spine. Tiny droplets of water had formed on the wall, which I touched. I wanted to feel it again. I touched it again. It was the most wonderful feeling. I wondered why I don't do these things often.

I decided to stay there till sunrise. I closed my eyes and waited. Finally, I could see a faint light in the east. Even though we hardly notice, these things do happen. Like sunrise and stuff. I saw the sun rise. As he rose I could see more and more buildings like ours. The breeze had got much stronger. It was like sitting near the window seat of a bus that was moving through some lonely road near a lush paddy field. I got that taste in the air. I got the feel. It was like heaven had met earth.

In the cubicle, I congratulate someone when his SELECT statement works. There I was, all alone, on the terrace, when more important things were happening and I had no one to congratulate. I wanted to cry "Thank you God". "Thank you for giving me this beautiful world to live in." But... the words wouldn't come out. I felt guilty. I knew very well that I would go back in the cubicle once my emotions wore off.

"No" I said. "I am NOT going back there again." I ran down the stairs. I wanted the glass that covers our reception to break and let some of this air in. I rushed into my cubicle and got my bag and stuff. Running out, I did not bother to sign the register. Strangely, my vehicle started with just one kick. I rode my bike quite fast, just to feel the air on my face.

When I reached the road, I realized that I was late. Considering the fact that I was in office since yesterday, I was really really late. The world had moved on. People had spent another night with their families. Kids had spent another day studying for exams. Old folks had spent another night wondering when to dye their hair. Teenagers had spent another night dreaming about their loved ones.

There I was, like a machine coming out of my office building. I saw people taking their morning walks. Some of them jogging. Some of them standing and talking. Some old aunties jogging and talking and laughing, all at the same time. There were newspaper-boys, milk- vendors and what not.

I started feeling out of place. "Was I from another planet or something?" I thought. I was dreaming I guess, a milk-vendor chap on his bicycle nearly hit my bike. "Idiot" I said. Didn't he know I am going home after a tough day? Didn't he know that I am tired, and do not have the energy for such crap? "Wait a minute," I told myself. "Are you doing somebody a favor by staying in the office so long?" "Will this world be a better place if you do that?" "Do you have it in you to buy one meal for that milk-vendor's family?"

YOU CAN'T!!! And that's the truth. You can't do anything except writing pieces of code, which you regard as full of life for reasons known best to you. I broke into tears thinking about my own plight. I hated the fact that I existed. Why was I going through this entire trauma? What was holding me here? The money?. The passion to program?. The feeling that I would be isolated if I didn't work?. I don't know. I am still searching for the answers.

Then, suddenly out of nowhere, images of my family came into my mind. My dad, who had taken care of the family since I remember him. In fact, since I remember anything. My mom who would not have slept even a little bit, since I have not reached home. "I am not alone" I shouted. "I have this beautiful world to live in, with beautiful people in it".

Friends, do go out sometimes. Share your life with the people you love the most. Share your life with the nature. Share it with the wind. Share it with the sun. Share it with the rain. Things much much more important than programming is happening out there. But it won't come for you, you have to go out and find it.

The Right Yardstick

This past year I was diagnosed with cancer and faced the possibility that my life would end sooner than I’d planned. Thankfully, it now looks as if I’ll be spared. But the experience has given me important insight into my life.

I have a pretty clear idea of how my ideas have generated enormous revenue for companies that have used my research; I know I’ve had a substantial impact. But as I’ve confronted this disease, it’s been interesting to see how unimportant that impact is to me now. I’ve concluded that the metric by which God will assess my life isn’t dollars but the individual people whose lives I’ve touched.

I think that’s the way it will work for us all. Don’t worry about the level of individual prominence you have achieved; worry about the individuals you have helped become better people. This is my final recommendation: Think about the metric by which your life will be judged, and make a resolution to live every day so that in the end, your life will be judged a success.

- Clayton Christianson

Personal Calling ...

There are 4 obstacles. First: we are told from childhood onwards that everything we want to do is impossible. We grow up with this idea, and as the years accumulate, so too do the layers of prejudice, fear and guilt. There comes a time when our personal calling is so deeply buried in our soul as to be invisible. But it’s still there.

If we have the courage to disinter dream, we are then faced by the second obstacle: love. We know that we want to do, but are afraid of hurting those around us by abandoning everything in order to pursue our dream. We do not realize that love is just a further impetus, not something that will prevent us going forward. We do not realize that those who genuinely wish us well want us to be happy and are prepared to accompany us on that journey. Once we have accepted that love is a stimulus, we come up against the third obstacle: fear of the defeats we will meet on the path. We who fight out dream suffer far more when it doesn’t work out, because we cannot fall back on the old excuse: “Oh, well, I didn’t really want it anyway.” We do want it and know that we have staked everything on it and that the path of the personal calling is no easier than any other path, except that our whole heart is in this journey. Then, we warriors of light must be prepared to have patience in difficult times and to know that the Universe is conspiring in our favor, even though we may not understand how.

Defeats happen, even if they are necessary or not. When we first begin fighting for our dream, we have no experience and make many mistakes. The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.

So, why is it so important to live our personal calling if we are only going to suffer more than other people?

Because, once we have overcome the defeats - and we always do – we are filled by a greater sense of euphoria and confidence. In the silence of our hearts, we know that we are proving ourselves worthy of the miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to live with enthusiasm and pleasure. Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives.

Having disinterred our dream, having used the power of love to nurture it and spent many years living with the scars, we suddenly notice that what we always wanted is there, waiting for us, perhaps the very next day. Then comes the fourth obstacle: the fear of realizing the dream for which we fought all our lives.

Oscar Wilde said: “Each man kills the thing he loves.” And it’s true. The mere possibility of getting what we want fills the soul of the ordinary person with guilt. We look around at all those who have failed to get what they want and feel that we do not deserve to get that we want either. We forget about the obstacles we overcame, all the suffering we endured, all the things we had to give up in order to get this far. There are a lot of people who, when their personal calling was within their grasp, went on to commit a series of stupid mistakes and never reached their goal – when it was only a step away.

This is the most dangerous of the obstacles because it has a kind of saintly aura about it: renouncing joy and conquest. But if you believe in yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you become an instrument of God, you help the Soul of the World, and you understand why you are here.

- Paulo Coelho

The Golden Rules...

• Be responsible for your actions and learn to move on
• Family and career are both important, but balance is a must
• Have a progressive outlook, but respect old world values
• Satisfy not just reason, work to please your heart
• Look at life's positive side, you'll always be happy
• Love, Honesty, compassion… If you have these 3 virtues, you can never go wrong
• Accept life's hardship as the "will of God" and put goodness above all material values

Myths and Logos

Myth is truth which is subjective, intuitive, cultural and grounded in faith. Ancient Greek philosophers knew myth as mythos. They distinguished mythos from logos. From mythos came intuitive narrations, from logos reasonable deliberations. Mythos gave rise to the oracles and the arts. From logos came science and mathematics. Logos explained how the sun rises and how babies are born. It took man to the moon. But it never explained why. Why does the sun rise? Why is a baby born? Why does man exist on earth? For answers one had to turn to mythos. Mythos gave purpose, meaning and validation to existence.

Myth is essentially a cultural construct, a common understanding of the world that binds individuals and communities together. This understanding may be religious or secular. Ideas such as rebirth, heaven and hell, angels and demons, fate and farewell, sin, Satin and salvation are religious myths. Ideas such as sovereignty, nation state, human rights, women’s rights and animal rights are secular myths. Religious or secular, all myths make profound sense to one group of people. Not to everyone. They cannot be rationalized beyond a point. In the final analysis, you either accept them or you don’t.

Happiness !!!

1. 1. Your life has Purpose and Meaning

   2. Use a strategy for Happiness

   3. You don't have to win every time

   4. Your goals should be aligned with one another

   5. Choose your comparisons wisely

   6. Cultivate Friendships

   7. Turn off the TV

   8. Accept yourself - Unconditionally

   9. Remember where you came from

   10. Limit yourself to thinking about one subject as you lie down to sleep

   11. Friendship beats money

   12. Have realistic expectations

   13. Be open to new ideas

   14. Share with others how important they are to you

   15. If you are not sure, guess positively

   16. Believe in yourself

   17. Don't believe in yourself too much

   18. Don't face your problems alone

   19. Age is not to be feared

   20. Develop a household routine

   21. Don't be overprotective

   22. Pay attention. You may have what you want

   23. Don't let your Religious beliefs fade

   24. Do what you sat you are going to do

   25. Don't be aggressive with your friends and family

   26. Root for the home team

   27. Don't confuse stuff with success

   28. Every relationship is different

   29. Don't think "What If"

   30. Volunteer

   31. If you can’t reach your goals, your goals will hurt you

   32. Exercise

   33. Little things have big meanings

   34. It's not what happened, it's how you think about what happened

   35. Develop some common interests with loved ones

   36. Laugh

   37. Don't let your entire life hinge on one element

   38. Share of yourself

   39. Busy is better than bored

   40. Satisfaction is relative

   41. Learn to use a computer

   42. Try to think less about the people and things that bother you

   43. Keep your family close

   44. Eat some fruit every day

   45. Enjoy what you have

   46. Think in concrete terms

   47. Be socially supportive

   48. Don't blame yourself

   49. Be a peacemaker

   50. Cherish animals

   51. Make your work a calling

   52. Never trade your morals for your goals

   53. Don't pretend to ignore things your loved ones do that bother you

   54. Get a good night's sleep

   55. Buy what you like

   56. Accomplish something every day

   57. Be flexible

   58. Events are temporary

   59. Be your own fan

   60. Join a group

   61. Be positive

   62. There will be an end, but you can be prepared

   63. How we see the world is more important than how the world is

   64. Keep a pen and paper handy

   65. Help the next person who needs some minor assistance

   66. Take care not to harshly criticize family and friends

   67. Some people are like the big picture, and others like the details

   68. Do things you are good at

   69. Go visit your neighbor

   70. Smile

   71. Don't accept television's picture of the world

   72. You always have a choice

   73. Be agreeable

   74. Don't ignore one part of your life

   75. Listen to music

   76. Let your goals guide you

   77. Use your job positively

   78. Don't forget to have fun

   79. Believe in ultimate justice

   80. Reminisce

   81. Be conscientious

   82. Don't dwell on unwinnable conflicts

   83. Enjoy the ordinary

   84. Focus not on the world's tragedies, but on the world's hope

   85. Get a hobby

   86. Envying other people's relationships is pointless

   87. Give yourself time to adapt to change

   88. Focus on what really matters to you

   89. Realize that complete satisfaction does not exist

   90. Surround yourself with pleasant aromas

   91. Don't let others set your goals

   92. You are a person, not a stereotype

   93. Know what makes you happy and sad

   94. Keep reading

   95. We must feel needed

   96. Say "So What"

   97. Have a purpose

   98. You have not finished the best part of your life

   99. Money does not buy happiness

Love your Life!

When most people reach the twilights of their lives, they will tell you it's not about having a bigger house or better job, or about the car they drove or the clothes they wore. They will tell you it was all about investing in themselves and their relationships with other people. How many times have we heard people say with regret, "If only I would have taken better care of myself.... if only I would have have spent more time with my family and the people I love." That does not have to be you. Loving your life is being willing to make changes, to let go of old ways and unhealthy habits so that you can be the best you can be. It's about having the right perspective and understanding the value of who you are and what you have.

It's learning to love others and learning to love yourself so that you can get more out of your relationships. It's about recognizing the gifts that God has given to you and making the most of these gifts.

Ultimately, loving your life is about discovering the greatness that is inside of you and the influence you have on the world around you. You will be amazed at the impact you will have when you tap into those treasures within.

No matter where you are today, you have the potential to have better relationships, to increase in confidence, to overcome obstacles, and to celebrate the life God has given you. Perhaps some unfair things have happened in your past, but those things don't define you and they don't determine your future. It's not what happens to you that matters most, it's what happens in you. You don't have to let your experiences draw confidence from you; instead you can draw confidence from your experiences. Be encouraged today because there is no much more in you that is waiting to be discovered. There are new options for your future, and opportunities to be recovered. Now is the time to leave the past behind and make room to embrace the destiny that lies ahead for you...

Have you stirred your coffee well?

Sometimes we struggle with a tasteless coffee till the last sip, then we find sugar lying at the bottom.. THAT IS LIFE, Sweetened, but not stirred well...

Doubt & Faith ...

Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that Faith is his twin brother...

Doubt does make you feel lonely, as if no one else knows what you are feeling or going through. Whether you doubt yourself, or someone else, or a situation happening, it is a very lonely place to be. But, if you have faith, and know who you are and what you want, then the strength comes with those feelings.

Feelings & Maturity ...

The more one can fake one’s feelings, the more mature one is said to be – The lesson that I learned from life hard way. When I look back in my life, through several incidences I have felt the same. While I did things as I should have, respecting the whole society and surroundings to the extreme extent that I could, I had to fake my own feelings a lot many times. Sometimes, it was sheer unwillingness to trap others in my sad story and sometimes, it was the secrecy in social bonding that I did not want to reveal. As life progressed, unfolding such surprises one after other, the more ‘mature’ I became. ‘Mature’, in the sense that, I became more used-to to such situations, most of the times, solving myself and not disclosing to others… Many times, in moments of panic, frustration, I felt like running from the current things, but somehow, again managed to control myself and flew in the current moment. I think such is life; it goes the way you want others to see it.

YOU or ME?

The law of attraction says, “Like attracts like”. That means, if you are thinking something good, universe will force good things come to you and if you are thinking of bad, you will manifest the same.

When this is told openly, lot of questions come around “self”. It is ME that thinks some good for me and then if somebody else thinks just the opposite, which one the universe is going to support for. Conflicts come around any common goal or common thing. You want some thing to be in one way whereas your friend or relative wants the same in another way. Conflict and more of conflict. YOU or ME; YOURS or MINE is the always conflicting part that all of us face in day to day life.

“Ask, believe and receive” is the principle. Well said, but then who gets that if two people asks and believes too!?

The truth is that the entire reality is your creation. You think something to happen in someway and the universe supports you there. If you think of conflict, yes, you will get more of conflict, as the universe thinks you are longing for the conflict; somewhere in your consciousness you have registered yourself for the conflict and according to the law of attraction, you will get more of conflict.

So feel good about your creation, feel grateful for the world… Create the reality that you really want by thinking that, by making decisions and holding intentions. Think what you desire, not what you don’t want to have or don’t want to get. Focus on what you want, rather what others may want or things that you don’t want.

Everything is manifestation of your consciousness. You see others as you want them to be, not as they really are. You see yourself as you want yourself to be. So change your mindset, change your thinking. Think “good” and get “good”. Let the “Law of attraction” play for US, not only for YOU or only for ME.

The Secret

The Secret Revealed

1. The Great Secret of Life is the law of attraction.

2. The law of attraction says “like attracts like”, so when you think a thought, you are also attracting like thoughts to you

3. Thoughts are magnetic, and thoughts have a frequency. As you think thoughts, they are sent out into the Universe, and they magnetically attract all like things that are on the same frequency. Everything sent out returns to the source – you.

4. You are like a human transmission tower, transmitting a frequency with your thoughts. If you want to change anything in your life, change the frequency by changing your thoughts.

5. Your current thoughts are creating your future life. What you can think about the most or focus on the most will appear as your life.

6. Your thoughts become things.

Secret Made Simple

1. The law of attraction is a law of nature. It is as impartial as the law of gravity.

2. Nothing can come into your experience unless you summon it through persistent thoughts.

3. To know what you’re thinking, ask yourself how you are feeling. Emotions are valuable tools that instantly tell us what we are thinking.

4. It is impossible to feel bad and at the same time have good thoughts.

5. Your thoughts determine your frequency, and your feelings tell you immediately what frequency you are on. When you feel bad, you are on the frequency of drawing more bad things. When you feel good, you are powerfully attracting more good things to you.

6. Secret Shifters, such as pleasant memories, nature, or your favourite music, can change your feelings and shift your frequency in an instant.

7. The feeling of love is the highest frequency you can emit. The greater the love you feel and emit, the greater the power you are harnessing.

How to use the Secret

1. Like Aladdin’s Genie, the law of attraction grants our every command.

2. The Creative Process helps you create what you want in three simple steps: ask, believe, and receive.

3. Asking the Universe for what you want is your opportunity to get clear about what you want. As you get clear in your mind, you have asked.

4. Believing involves acting, speaking, and thinking as though you have already received what you’ve asked for. When you emit the frequency of having received it, the law of attraction moves people, events, and circumstances for you to receive.

5. Receiving involves feeling the way you will feel once your desire has manifested. Feeling good now puts you on the frequency of what you want.

6. Starting with something small, like a cup of coffee or parking spaces, is an easy way to experience the law of attraction in action. Powerfully intend to attract something small. As you experience the power you have to attract, you will move on to creating much bigger things.

7. Create your day in advance by thinking the way you want it to go, and you will create your life intentionally.

Powerful Processes

1. Expectation is a powerful attractive force. Expect the things you want, and don’t expect the things you don’t want.

2. Gratitude is a powerful process for shifting your energy and bringing of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have, and you will attract more good things.

3. Giving thanks for what you want in advance turbo-changes your desires and sends a more powerful signal out into the Universe.

4. Visualization is the process of creating pictures in your mind of yourself enjoying what you want. When you visualize, you generate powerful thoughts and feelings of having it now. The law of attraction then returns that reality to you, just as you saw it in your mind.

5. To use the law of attraction to your advantage, make it a habitual way of being, not just a one-time event.

6. At the end of every day, before you go to sleep, go back through the events of the day. Any events or moments that were not what you wanted, replay them in your mind the way you wanted them to go.

The Secret to Money

1. To attract money, focus on wealth. It is impossible to bring more money into your life when you focus on the lack of it.

2. It is helpful to use your imagination and make-believe you already have the money you want. Play games of having wealth and you will feel better about money; as you feel better about it, more will flow into your life.

3. Feeling happy mow is the fastest way to bring money into your life.

4. Make it your intention to look at everything you like and say to yourself, “I can afford that. I can buy that.” You will shift your thinking and begin to feel better about money.

5. Give money in order to bring more of it into your life. When you are generous with money and feel good about sharing it, you are saying, “I have plenty.”

6. Visualize checks in the mail.

7. Tip the balance of your thoughts to wealth. Think wealth.

The Secret to Relationships

1. When you want to attract a relationship, make sure your thoughts, words, actions, and surroundings don’t contradict your desires.

2. Your job is you. Unless you fill yourself, you have nothing to give anybody.

3. Treat yourself with love and respect, and you will attract people who show you love and respect.

4. When you feel bad about yourself, you block the love and instead you attract more people and situations that will continue to make you feel bad about you.

5. Focus on the qualities you love about yourself and the law of attraction will show you more great things about you.

6. To make a relationship work, focus on what you appreciate about the other person, and not your complaints. When you focus on the strengths, you will get more of them.

The Secret to Health

1. The placebo effect is an example of the law of attraction in action. When a patient truly believes the tablet is a cure, he receives what he believes and is cured.

2. “Focusing on perfect health” is something we can all do within ourselves, despite what may be happening on the outside.

3. Laughter attracts joy, releases negativity, and leads to miraculous cures.

4. Disease is held in the body by thought, by observation of the illness, and by the attention given to the illness. If you are feeling a little unwell, don’t talk about it – unless you want more of it. If you listen to people talk about their illness, you add energy to their illness. Instead, change the conversation to good things, and give powerful thoughts to seeing those people in health.

5. Beliefs about aging are all in our minds, so release those thoughts from your consciousness. Focus on health and eternal youth.

6. Do not listen to society’s message about diseases and aging. Negative messages do not serve you.

The Secret to the World

1. What you resist, you attract, because you are powerfully focused on it with emotion. To change anything, go within and emit a new signal with your thoughts and feelings.

2. You cannot help the world by focusing on the negative things. As you focus on the world’s negative events, you not only add to them, but you also bring more negative things into your own life.

3. Instead of focusing on the world’s problems, give your attention and energy to trust, love, abundance, education and peace.

4. We will never run out of good things because there’s more than enough to go around for everyone. Life is meant to be abundant.

5. You have the ability to tap into the unlimited supply through your thoughts and feelings and bring it into your experience.

6. Praise and bless everything in the world, and you will dissolve negativity and discord and align yourself with the highest frequency – love.

The Secret to You

1. Everything is energy. You are an energy magnet, so you electrically energize everything to you and electrically energize yourself to everything you want.

2. You are a spiritual being. You are energy, and energy cannot be created or destroyed – it just changes form. Therefore, the pure essence of you has always been and always will be.

3. The Universe emerges from thought. We are the creators not only of our own destiny but also of the Universe.

4. An unlimited supply of ideas is available to you. All knowledge, discoveries, and inventions are in the Universal Mind as possibilities, waiting for the human mind to draw them forth. You hold everything in your consciousness.

5. We are all connected, and we are all One.

6. Let go of difficulties from your past, cultural codes, and social beliefs. You are the only one who can create the life you deserve.

7. A shortcut to manifesting your desires is to see what you want as absolute fact.

8. Your power is in your thoughts, so stay aware. In other words, “Remember to remember.”

The Secret to Life

1. You get to fill the blackboard of your life with whatever you want.

2. The only thing you need to do is feel good now.

3. The more you use the power within you, the more power you will draw through you.

4. The time to embrace your magnificence is now.

5. We are in the midst of a glorious era. As we let go of limiting thoughts, we will experience humanity’s true magnificence, in every area of creation.

6. Do what you love. If you don’t know what brings you joy, ask, “What is my joy?” As you commit to your joy, you will attract an avalanche of joyful things because you are radiating joy.

7. Now that you have learned he knowledge of The Secret, what you do with it is up to you. Whatever you choose is right. The power is all yours.

Self-doubt !!!

We are all entitled to self-doubt. There will be moments when you feel you are at a crossroads; times when you question the very meaning of life and the existence of God. You are not the only one to feel this way. It is a rite of passage. People who create great impact suffer from moments of great soul-searching. In itself, it is a good sign because from the depth of our self-doubt we learn to let go; from that emerges a conviction and with it comes the capability to go kiss the world...

-- Subroto Bagchi

Get Ahead ...

Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves; to break our own records; to outstrip our yesterdays by our todays; to bear our trials more beautifully than we ever dreamed we could; to give as we never have given; to do our work with more force and a finer finish than ever. This is the true idea; to get ahead of ourselves… - Carl Holmes

The Future...

“The future is not a result of choices among alternative paths offered by the present, but a place that is created; created first in mind, then in will and next in activity. The future is not someplace we are going to, but one we are creating. The paths to it are not found but made and the activity of making them changes the maker and the destination.” – John Scharr

The Love...

Everyone wants to be loved; it is a natural phenomenon. And most of us have realized that the best way to be loved is to love. It is the give and take philosophy. The purity you show in one way, the same pure love you get from the other end. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Similarly, for every love that you give, you get equal love (re-love!).
Fear is not love, dependence is not love, jealousy is not love, possessiveness and domination are not love, responsibility and duty are not love, self-pity is not love, the agony of not being loved is not love, love is not the opposite of hate any more than humility is the opposite of vanity.

Now, I know, all the readers are thinking what this love I am talking about here…To answer this, let me take few words from one of my favorite author’s article; it is J. Krishnamurthy on Love…

We are not loved because we don't know how to love. What is love? The word is so loaded and corrupted that I hardly like to use it. Everybody talks of love - every magazine and newspaper and every missionary talks everlastingly of love. I love my country, I love my king, I love some book, I love that mountain, I love pleasure, I love my wife, I love God. Is love an idea? If it is, it can be cultivated, nourished, cherished, pushed around, twisted in any way you like… When you say you love God what does it mean? It means that you love a projection of your own imagination, a projection of yourself clothed in certain forms of respectability according to what you think is noble and holy; so to say, `I love God', is absolute nonsense. When you worship God you are worshipping yourself - and that is not love.
Because we cannot solve this human thing called love we run away into abstractions. Love may be the ultimate solution to all man's difficulties, problems and travails, so how are we going to find out what love is; by merely defining it? The church has defined it one way, society another, and there are all sorts of deviations and perversions. Adoring someone, sleeping with someone, the emotional exchange, the companionship - is that what we mean by love? That has been the norm, the pattern, and it has become so tremendously personal, sensuous, and limited that religions have declared that love is something much more than this. In what they call human love they see there is pleasure, competition, jealousy, the desire to possess, to hold, to control and to interfere with another's thinking, and knowing the complexity of all this they say there must be another kind of love, divine, beautiful, untouched, uncorrupted.
Can love be divided into the sacred and the profane, the human and the divine, or is there only love? Is love of the one and not of the many? If I say, ‘I love you’, does that exclude the love of the other? Is love personal or impersonal? Moral or immoral? Family or non-family? If you love mankind can you love the particular? Is love sentiment? Is love emotion? Is love pleasure and desire? All these questions indicate, don't they, that we have ideas about love, ideas about what it should or should not be, a pattern or a code developed by the culture in which we live.
Belonging to another, being psychologically nourished by another, depending on another - in all this there must always be anxiety, fear, jealousy, guilt, and so long as there is fear there is no love; a mind ridden with sorrow will never know what love is; sentimentality and emotionalism have nothing whatsoever to do with love. And so love is not to do with pleasure and desire.
Love is not the product of thought which is the past. Thought cannot possibly cultivate love. Love is not hedged about and caught in jealousy, for jealousy is of the past. Love is always active present. It is not `I will love' or `I have loved'. If you know love you will not follow anybody. Love does not obey. When you love there is neither respect nor disrespect. Don't you know what it means really to love somebody - to love without hate, without jealousy, without anger, without wanting to interfere with what he is doing or thinking, without condemning, without comparing - don't you know what it means? Where there is love, is there comparison? When you love someone with all your heart, with your entire mind, with all your body, with your entire being, is there comparison? When you totally abandon yourself to that love there is not the other.
In this torn desert world there is no love because pleasure and desire play the greatest roles, yet without love your daily life has no meaning. And you cannot have love if there is no beauty. Beauty is not something you see - not a beautiful tree, a beautiful picture, a beautiful building or a beautiful woman. There is beauty only when your heart and mind know what love is. Without love and that sense of beauty there is no virtue, and you know very well that, do what you will, improve society, feed the poor, you will only be creating more mischief, for without love there is only ugliness and poverty in your own heart and mind. But when there is love and beauty, whatever you do is right, whatever you do is in order. If you know how to love, then you can do what you like because it will solve all other problems. So we reach the point: can the mind come upon love without discipline, without thought, without enforcement, without any book, any teacher or leader - come upon it as one comes upon a lovely sunset? It seems to me that one thing is absolutely necessary and that is passion without motive - passion that is not the result of some commitment or attachment, passion that is not lust. A man who does not know what passion is will never know love because love can come into being only when there is total self-abandonment. A mind that is seeking is not a passionate mind and to come upon love without seeking it is the only way to find it - to come upon it unknowingly and not as the result of any effort or experience. Such a love, you will find, is not of time; such a love is both personal and impersonal, is both the one and the many. Like a flower that has perfume you can smell it or pass it by. That flower is for everybody and for the one who takes trouble to breathe it deeply and look at it with delight. Whether one is very near in the garden, or very far away, it is the same to the flower because it is full of that perfume and therefore it is sharing with everybody.
Love is something that is new, fresh, alive. It has no yesterday and no tomorrow. It is beyond the turmoil of thought. It is only the innocent mind which knows what love is, and the innocent mind can live in the world which is not innocent. To find this extraordinary thing which man has sought endlessly through sacrifice, through worship, through relationship, through sex, through every form of pleasure and pain, is only possible when thought comes to understand itself and comes naturally to an end. Then love has no opposite, then love has no conflict. You may ask, `If I find such a love, what happens to my wife, my children, my family? They must have security.' When you put such a question you have never been outside the field of thought, the field of consciousness. When once you have been outside that field you will never ask such a question because then you will know what love is in which there is no thought and therefore no time. You may read this mesmerized and enchanted, but actually to go beyond thought and time - which means going beyond sorrow - is to be aware that there is a different dimension called love. But you don't know how to come to this extraordinary fount - so what do you do? If you don't know what to do, you do nothing, don't you? Absolutely nothing. Then inwardly you are completely silent. Do you understand what that means? It means that you are not seeking, not wanting, not pursuing; there is no centre at all. Then there is love.
Love cannot be taught. If people could be taught how to love, the world problem would be very simple, would it not? If we could learn how to love from a book as we learn mathematics, this would be a marvelous world; there would be no hate, no exploitation, no wars, no division of rich and poor, and we would all be really friendly with each other. But love is not so easily come by. It is easy to hate, and hate brings people together after a fashion; it creates all kinds of fantasies, it brings about various types of co-operation, as in war. But love is much more difficult. You cannot learn how to love, but what you can do is to observe hate and put it gently aside. Don't battle against hate, don't say how terrible it is to hate people, but see hate for what it is and let it drop away; brush it aside, it is not important. What is important is not to let hate take root in your mind. Do you understand? Your mind is like rich soil, and if given sufficient time any problem that comes along takes root like a weed, and then you have the trouble of pulling it out; but if you do not give the problem sufficient time to take root, then it has no place to grow and it will wither away. If you encourage hate, give it time to take root, to grow, to mature, it becomes an enormous problem. But if each time hate arises you let it go by, then you will find that your mind becomes very sensitive without being sentimental; therefore it will know love. The mind can pursue sensations, desires, but it cannot pursue love. Love must come to the mind. And, when once love is there, it has no division as sensuous and divine: it is love. That is the extraordinary thing about love: it is the only quality that brings a total comprehension of the whole of existence.

Love is not just a relationship, it should be state of being.